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Learn How to Accept Compliments by Changing Your Inner Dialogue

Do you remember the last time someone gave you a compliment?

Did you accept that compliment with grace and appreciation, or did you, like most people, thank the person for giving it to you, but quietly or openly undermining your own virtue?

If this sounds like you, then today is the day to change that pattern of thinking.

Learning to accept compliments, especially sincere ones given by family and friends is an important step towards true inner value and worth.

Sometimes, we can be quick to criticize ourselves and so slow to accept compliments from others, but as we learn to take this important step in our life we find that it enriches our relationships and changes our perspective on ourselves and on the way we approach life.

Learning to accept compliments is an important self-growth and development step. Perhaps you feel, like most people, that to accept compliments is to start on the pathway to arrogance and no one likes an egotistical person.

There is a big difference between having value in one’s achievements and being arrogant, which is something that we all need to learn to understand the difference and uplift the right perspectives with the inner dialogue we have with ourselves.

Every day we tell ourselves we are not good enough, or we don’t deserve the help that is offered to us, or that we are not as beautiful as our spouse assures us we are.

Challenging that talk requires accepting the opposite perspective and allowing people to tell us what they think of us, rather than what we think of ourselves.

When we reject the compliments and the comments of others genuinely praising our efforts, we are in effect, rejecting the person who has given them. What could eventually occur is people will stop giving the compliments or offering the help if they feel we are rejecting it.

This can affect all of our relationships: our marriages, our work relationships and even our chance of improving the personal relationship we have with ourselves.

Try saying a simple and genuine thank you the next time someone offers you a compliment or praises you for a job well done.  

Allow your self-talk to be challenged by their words and to create a hunger in you to see yourself as others see you.

Write in a journal your attitudes to what is said to you and your response to it.

You may feel uncomfortable at first, as you practice saying thank you without having to undermine it, downplay it or outright disregard the compliment, it will transform you.


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