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6 Strategies to Overcoming a Confidence Crisis

A confidence crisis can be triggered by an event or series of events such as losing an important business deal, break-up or loss of a valued relationship or losing a job.

When this happens, even a small thing can send you over the edge, creating an unwanted crisis.

To protect yourself from such a situation, you need to take control of yourself, and your life.

You must learn to ignore external stimuli. Don’t be affected by what people say or are likely to say about you. More important, you should not be worried about failure.

Believe in the idea that disappointment and failure are stepping stones for possibilities.

There are bound to be failures, and setbacks in life, despite your best efforts.

Take them in your stride.

Here are 6 strategies on overcoming a confidence crisis:

Write it Down

Maintain a diary, and note down all positive things that happen during the course of the day. You will be surprised to note the number of positive things that are happening around you, which you missed earlier. This will help you think positively, and dispel your doubts.

This will also break the stranglehold of negative thoughts that had lowered your self-esteem, and generated doubts about your abilities and skills. Repeat to yourself every day that you are getting better at what you do, and feel the difference.

Assess Your Relationships

Take some time to think about your relationships. If a friend is having a bad influence on your self-confidence or if the relationship is more of a burden than a pleasure, you are better off if you stop meeting that person. Instead, try to build new relationships with people you like and admire, and who are supportive of you. Ideally, form a group of supportive friends and give them your support in turn. This will do your self-confidence a world of good.

Let Go

Focus on the subjects over which you have control and reduce your exposure to events over which you have little or no control. Monitor your internal dialogue, and silence the negative voice that keeps criticizing you.


A useful strategy is to visualize a situation that bothers or worries you. Jot down these points. Think of people who have successfully crossed these hurdles, and ask yourself if they could do it then why can’t I? Think of yourself as someone who is brimming with confidence, and is ready to take up the challenge. Make this a habit. You will find that you too can overcome these obstacles.

Maintain Your Physical Well-Being

Self-confidence is more than a simple state of mind. It also flows from your physical well-being. Regular exercise adds to your energy levels, and makes you feel fitter and confident. Similarly, dressing well adds several notches to your self-confidence. Even simple things like sleeping well will make you feel better. In contrast, drinking to drive away you woes will add to your unhappiness.

Remain Assertive

You must also learn to speak up. When you hesitate to speak, you are doing yourself a great disfavor. Very often, you become a prisoner of your shyness. You want to speak, but your shyness does not let you do so. This eats into your self-esteem and self-confidence. Don’t allow this situation to continue.

Always remember that you may know more than your colleague who is the centre of attention because he has a view on every subject. Others may find your views more interesting, if only they heard them.


Change is constant and change takes time. So be patient with the process and yourself. What is needed most of all is your belief in yourself. These tips are great to help in overcoming any confidence crisis and maintain belief you. When you do, you embrace possibilities.


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